Breaking the Cycle

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Breaking the Cycle

An interview with Chris Harden and his wife Alexa

I think what she saw and what I was used to seeing growing up were very different. I think she saw some things in me that were scary. She actually broke up with me and that really set me back. I kind of went off and went into a pretty dark rebellious stage.

I’m Chris Harden and this is my wife Alexa. We’ve got three children. We have been married for 13 years and we have three children.

I grew up Catholic. I made a lot of bad decisions growing up. I experienced a lot of abuse growing up, both emotionally, physically, mentally, and other. When I went to college, I was pursuing money and trying to be popular and trying to be liked by others around me. I was into things I shouldn’t have been in: drugs, alcohol, promoting bands and clubs, just that party scene.

One night, I was walking out of a club I was promoting. I had a bunch of money in my pocket and I was drunk. There was a fight in the parking lot. I walk out and the last thing I remember was talking to some guy at his car and I woke up the next day in the hospital. The doctor said I was lucky to be alive.

Alexa: He was in the ICU for a while.

I was in the ICU for about a week and the doctor said I had a fractured skull and a fractured jaw and a broken ear drum from – he thought I got hit with a tire iron in the back of my head. That’s really where –

Alexa: rock bottom –

God said “What are you doing? I’ve given you blessings that you’re not… So anyway, that prompted me to get out of Lubbock and interestingly enough, it brought Alexa and I together quickly after that.

Alexa: I had heard about this happening to him. I was in Dallas at the time and I heard about that happening. I had actually heard that he had died. For me, that was horrible because we were broken up, but I loved him and I had hoped that we would come back together. I think that God definitely had his hand in that because all the pieces worked their way back to us getting back together.

When we did get back together, that was really the turning point in my faith. That was when I started to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He was pursuing me and I was pursuing him.

When Sophia was born, we didn’t know what we were doing. When we decided to move from Fort Worth back to Dallas, I was looking to get plugged into a ministry in the real estate industry and I came across Abiding Fathers. Based on the way I grew up, it was intriguing because it’s like “Wow, what is this? There is a ministry dedicated to training and equipping fathers on how to be a dad? As a Christian? I’m in on that.” So I signed up for the class that Bill Dotson was teaching at the church and went to this class and just ate up the material. It was amazing because I was getting practical, real-world knowledge and application of how to take biblical principles and apply them to fatherhood.

Alexa and I have talked about this: We are going to raise our kids differently than we grew up. The things of your past don’t have to be carried on into your future. You can change the way you grew up for your kids. I didn’t have a father who mentored me, who prayed for me, who listened to me growing up – not a mentor type. Through the Abiding Fathers, I’ve learned to mentor, I’ve learned to disciple my kids, I’ve learned to pray for my kids, I’ve learned to teach my kids, and listen to them.


Abiding Fathers is a Biblical fatherhood discipleship ministry committed to helping men be the dad…God wants them to be. It’s a movement of God that is “International-Relational-Generational”. Join with us. We need you!


4 thoughts on “Breaking the Cycle”

  1. This is an outstanding testimony and a wonderful family. It is amazing what can happen to a man, woman or family that will yield themselves to Jesus Christ. Praise to the Lord.

  2. It’s amazing, my name is Emmanuel FURAHA, I’m Rwandan, I’m christian born again, married with 21 years ago. Since January this year I was in prayers (requested by the voice of God) of 3 days Fasting (I didn’t cerebrate Happy New year together with my family). So In time I had received 4 specific messages by which one of them is asked me to ” Repent for Sins of Men” and requested me to take time for the whole year by Praying and Repenting for the male Sins against the will of God Versus the nature Responsibilities given by Him to the man at his creation, vis a vis of the problem of Fatherhood, then to become “The Master, The true Father, The Dad and Responsible of families….. And must become PROTECTOR of the families and always thinking success but referred to the God word. So that the Ignorance versus this responsibilities has been produced consequences of strict kids, rest windowers and their children without protection, emancipation issues, homosexual issues, etc. So in summary, at this time God is very angry against Sins of Man. And now I am still in Praying and Repenting for all men of world wide for their Ignorance sin against the will of God. So Fatherhood is a key point on this world before thinking other God’s projects. I continue and I will continue to pray for Men’s sins as I was inspired by the voice of God…… As conclusion, I take this time as an opportunity to wish more blessings to the founder of “ABIDING FATHERS Ministry” for obeying the voice of God for this initiative, and I thank the whole Team . Stay blessed in Jesus Christ name

    1. Emmanuel, thank you for sharing the burden God has placed on your heart. I commend your mission of praying and repenting for all men everywhere. And we join you as we pray for a revival of godly fatherhood across the world. Our Africa Directors are in Kigali. Maybe you could meet. With your permission we will send your contact info to them. Blessings, my Brother in Christ

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