We\u2019ve been conditioned to avoid pain and seek pleasure. It\u2019s in the advertisements we see and hear. It\u2019s in the dramatized media that often reports on sensational tragedies that are rare but worry us. It comes down to being afraid of failing and afraid of what might happen if our children make the wrong choices. \u2018Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it\u2019<\/em><\/strong>. (Prov 22:6 ESV) Add to that Proverbs 3 referring to trusting the Lord and counting on His wisdom, not ours. Life is full of unexpected events. Some tragedies can be avoided by prayer and trusting and honoring the Lord and gaining wisdom from scriptures. Common sense helps. But, please, stop worrying about what you cannot control. Some tragedies could be considered bad luck. Stuff happens. As a believer, it bothered me when someone mentioned bad or good luck. \u201cI don\u2019t need good luck, I\u2019m blessed and God will turn all events for good\u201d. O.K., settle down Skippy. That is true, but luck simply means, \u2018unknown and unpredictable phenomenon\u2019. And, as a father, I\u2019ve experience many unpredictable phenomena. Your children need to understand that to fail does not mean that you are a failure.<\/p>\n It\u2019s important. Your children need to know the boundaries. They need to know what right and wrong is and to suffer the consequences that follow poor decisions. Likely, they will learn more by the character you model than the words you speak. Also, it\u2019s good to pick your battles. Please don\u2019t nag them over minor infractions; \u2018you didn\u2019t pick up your socks again\u2019. Focus on the big events, the teachable moments.<\/p>\n Some of this is for you to figure out. Are you raising a child with Autism or special needs? Your majors are different from other parents. It\u2019s important for you to know and understand your role as a father. If you want to cast a vision for your children and show them their true potential, it\u2019s important to be encouraging and to cast out fear. Fear of oncoming traffic is healthy, but fear of failure is not. So, how do I cast a new vision for my children? And, what are the majors? \u00a0Loving<\/strong><\/em>, Praying, Modeling, Mentoring, Listening, Teaching, Disciplining, Blessing, Providing<\/em><\/strong>, and Protecting<\/em><\/strong> are the majors. If you\u2019d like to read more about understanding your role, majoring in the majors, and casting a new vision for your children, we recommend \u2018From Faith to Faith\u2019<\/a>, by Bill C. Dotson.<\/p>\nDiscipline and Modeling<\/strong><\/h3>\n
What are the Majors?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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