{"id":3576,"date":"2017-10-25T14:05:48","date_gmt":"2017-10-25T19:05:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/abidingfathers.org\/?p=943"},"modified":"2021-01-16T07:36:55","modified_gmt":"2021-01-16T13:36:55","slug":"parenting-stages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abidingfathers.org\/parenting-stages\/","title":{"rendered":"Parenting Stages"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nothing much of what I\u2019m going to say is original to me and so it\u2019s a case study. I copy and steal everything. It\u2019s proved helpful as most of us journey along and learn from our churches or our schools, or our mentors or friends. A lot of what I\u2019m going to say is borrowed from, in particular, one ministry that really reached out and grabbed a hold of me just a couple years ago.<\/p>\n

JH Ranch<\/a><\/p>\n

What was very eye opening to me was what is called this \u2018Journey of Transition\u2019. This broke down the stages of parenting for me, from being a \u201ccaretaker\u201d, age zero to five, to being a \u201ccop\u201d from age five to age twelve, \u201ccoach\u201d from twelve to eighteen, and then a \u201ccounselor\u201d from eighteen on. Those stages are guidelines and what you\u2019re trying to accomplish at each stage is reflected in the title. For me, the end goal is to be a counselor to my children and to have this relationship where, even in adulthood, we have this symbiotic relationship, where we\u2019re really counselors to each other and they continue to come to me. I can\u2019t get there by going from \u201ccop\u201d to \u201ccounselor\u201d. I needed to transition out of the \u201ccop\u201d role and into the \u201ccoach\u201d role and I only had about a year to do it because my daughter was entering her last year of high school. So, I was riding her pretty hard about things she wasn\u2019t doing right like, not getting up on time or missing something because she couldn\u2019t get ready in enough time. She wasn\u2019t being as administrated as I needed her to be. I realized that when she\u2019s gone at eighteen she\u2019s not going to be picking up the phone to call me to say \u201ccan you tell me this or what do you think I should do here?\u201d. And nobody responds if I\u2019ve been a cop then, why am I going to be any different at twenty-one when she\u2019s calling me. Making this transition from being the \u201ccop\u201d to being the \u201ccoach\u201d to being the \u201cencourager\u201d, is where I\u2019m loving them where they are and going on this journey together. I\u2019m staying side by side with you not in front of you.<\/p>\n

\"Picture<\/a>Be The Dad Movement contributor
\nTom Neuhoff<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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