Think back to a time when you\u2019ve been disappointed in your son or daughter. For some of you, it\u2019s a recent event. What is your response as a father? My standard response as a father of young men is the cold shoulder. My mood is cool. My talk is staccato. My look is downcast.<\/p>\n
As a boy growing up with two older brothers who were often in trouble, I rarely received this treatment from my father. I was a refreshment to my dad. Far from perfect, but it took a lot to disappoint my father. He disciplined. But, his patience was long.<\/p>\n
So, what is the correct approach?<\/p>\n
Discipline and\/or correct and move on<\/strong>. Holding onto your disappointment can lead to an outburst later. Correct what needs to be corrected and move on.<\/p>\n Communicate with love.<\/strong> Sons and daughters need much more encouragement than correction. So, if you need to correct them, do so, but be very watchful for an opportunity to encourage and communicate with a loving tone and look. Be authentic, but praise good work and reward good behavior.<\/p>\n Keep modeling good behavior.<\/strong> If your kids are like mine, they vividly remember dad\u2019s poor behavior. So, be mindful that they are watching. Be the dad who would make you proud as a son.<\/p>\n Listen with patience.<\/strong> Listening is loving. Children and adults who act poorly often have a heart issue. Listen to what\u2019s troubling them. Try not to make every moment they share a lesson. Just listen.<\/p>\n Oh, how my Lord has been so patient, so loving, and encouraging. Let me be filled with joy so that I can receive my sons with joy and model a joyful, loving father. Amen.<\/p>\n John Wodka Disappointment Think back to a time when you\u2019ve been disappointed in your son or daughter. For some of you, it\u2019s a recent event. What is your response as a father? 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