https://abidingfathers.org/talk-isnt-always-cheap-video-bodie-spangler-say-these-four-things/ Fri, 06 Mar 2026 13:23:23 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.1.2 https://abidingfathers.org/talk-isnt-always-cheap-video-bodie-spangler-say-these-four-things/#comment-28 Sat, 16 Jul 2016 04:49:00 +0000 https://abidingfathers.org/talk-isnt-always-cheap-video-bodie-spangler-say-these-four-things/#comment-28 This has sure been true for my life. I grew up with my dad and step-dad and both were very different yet struggled to affirm their love and acceptance of me. With one I’d get some good words followed by anger and rage over the smallest thing and with the other I practiced safe distance in order to not be talked down to and verbally and emotionally crapped on. To hear these words above that you suggest Matthew, from either of my fathers would have made an incredible impact. Only one of my dad’s is left and even with all the pain I haven’t forgotten between us, I’d still accept a warming hug and would cry with an open and vulnerable heart to hear I love you and I’m sorry. Talk isn’t cheap if your actions are in line, even if it’s through failing and mistakes. That is what “I’m sorry” is for. The pride that keeps father’s mouths shut from this moment of apology continues cycles of brokenhearted children who turn into coldhearted adults. As a step-mother myself, I am continually practicing the opportunity to put aside pride and apologize when I am wrong. It’s uncomfortable, hurts to admit, but the healing it can provide to a family’s relationship is COMPLETELY WORTH IT!

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