Frankly, I had no reason to believe I would still be here sharing this with you. My paternal grandfather died at 51, and my dad died at 57. I just turned 78. Truly our days are in the hands of God. But is it really the number of years, or is it the impact you have with whatever time He ordains? If it is the former, John the Baptist would have been counted a failure. Only about 25 or so years! What about our Savior; 33 was His lifespan. Seems short to us!
God gave me a fabulous wife, Joanne; two outstanding daughters and five incredible grandchildren. So, Bill, how have you handled these privileges and responsibilities? You would have to ask! Not very well at times but some of my efforts have been fruitful. What would you say about your parenting and role as husband?
The value of our time here will be measured by our obedience to disciple our families. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…so husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” (Eph. 5: 25-28) Is she as dear to your heart as the church, the bride, is to Jesus? The operative word is ‘gave’. Speaking from experience, we men are mostly about ‘getting’.
Does she need help with the kids, some time alone with friends, a listening ear, whatever? Giving ourselves means time spent. The Lord said that He did not come to be served but to serve and that we were to do the same. How are you serving your wives? Are there any date nights alone with your bride each week? When was the last time you cleaned up after a meal or even prepared the meal for your family? Are you a source of encouragement? Do you make her feel that she is the love of your life and that there is no one else to replace her? When was the last time you told her that you loved her? Or told her all the things you used to tell her before you married her? Does she believe that she is beautiful to you?
Guys, as dads, the most important thing you can do is to let your kids hear and see you loving their mother. Nothing can replace it. Did I always do that? Absolutely not! Am I sorry; you bet I am. So, let us both go into our prayer closet and ask God’s forgiveness, seek His power and His guidance and start serving our wives as Christ serves the church. And, interestingly for us selfish men, we will start getting everything we ever wanted. In spades!!